Wednesday, August 29, 2007
Is "complete" the right word...
As I made my daily stop at Shop 'N Save, I overheard 2 women, who obviously hadn't seen each other in a while, catching up. The one lady goes, "I tied the knot, and finally I'm complete." The other one sarcastically says, "Getting married made you complete?" I couldn't have said it better. How/why does getting married make you complete? Doesn't completion start within you? Don't you have to have some sense of completion in order to even know who you are? I'm sorry, but I truly feel that statement was sort of fatuous. Let's talk about it! Post what you think!
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that sounds like my sister. shes is doing everything she can to get married. she has been with multiple men with in the past 5 years and all of them were husband material. and shes not with any of them. and me having been married for almost 5 years is wondering what the big deal is. she thinks that being married will i guess complete her. i told her shes not missing anything. and she needs to work on her before she add yet another person to the mix. cause it is obvious on so many levels that shes not complete in her head and needs some therapy!
@ Carmell
Surprisingly, a lot of women are dying to be married! What is the big deal? You gave her some really good advice about working on herself. Those 3 words speak VOLUME!
If anything marriage means incompleteness! I say that b/c for the rest of your married life you are in a constant struggle to maintain your identy, and not wake up 5yrs later saying 'who am I'
I think Carm gave great advice!
I am 41 years old. I got married for the first time just over 5 years ago. I had a college degree, a career, great church family, many friends. I had traveled to Paris, Canada and various places within the United States, all before I got married. Yet for me personally, I had a desire to be married. I wanted to have a life partner. So when I got married, felt that a dream had been "completed" in my life. I, myself was complete, for me two is definately better than one. But thats for me personally. Everyone does not feel the same way and thats ok. I am still grateful for my husband and grateful that we are walking on the lifelong journey , together, side by side. But like I said, it was my dream, but not everyone's dream. I believe that many different things make people feel complete. I have to say, that though this dream is complete, I still have others so I still have some angst about those things that have yet to become a part of my reality.
Thats my two cents!
I think Trice has a point. If you don't feel like a whole woman while single, how can you be a "complete" wife. Saying "I Do" should not change who you are within.
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